Forget “New Year, New You” - 2025 is about BECOMING you!
2025 is not the year for “New Year, New You”, nor is it the year for “New Year, Same You”.
2025 is the year for becoming you!
Know your worth.
We often fall into the trap of looking outside ourselves for the answers we seek or to inspire resolution, especially at this time of year.
But in doing so, we risk accidently reinforcing a learned sense of lack, or unworthiness that can hold us back from ever really moving forward. These external pressures whisper that we aren’t enough as we are, pushing us into an endless cycle of trying to fill perceived voids or inadequacies.
Have you ever noticed the New Year resolutions we choose are the same ones we chose the year before? And the year before?
You are not broken, you do not need “fixing”. You have just been on hold, waiting to remember your worth, even when you didn’t know it.
Breaking the cycle: Setting heart-led goals
What if we were to break the cycle and let some of our time, sweat and tears come from the exploration of going inward? If “working out” is on your to-do list already? Great, enjoy! All I would suggest is that you also add “working in”.
Setting goals can be a recipe for great success, and following our heart-driven hopes and dreams should be a non-negotiable in this lifetime. But before you leap into action this New Year, I invite you to ask yourself “who am I doing this for?”
Make sure that “me” is at the top of that list.
The Adventure to “Becoming”
When you discover that your human experience has not been crafted for you to become like anybody else, everything shifts. When you figure out that life has been gifted to you to become yourself, you will find true joy and freedom. That might sound a little poetic, but it’s actually really hard work to explore those deeper layers. It can get chaotic and a little messy - getting to know who we really are, and what we want in the absence of external pressures and expectations.
Growth often feels uncomfortable because it involves blooming into a version of ourselves we have never met before. That is where your adventure to becoming begins.
When we stop striving for perfection and beating ourselves up when we can’t reach it, we make space to stand in our truth. It becomes clear that “becoming” isn’t a destination - it’s a lifelong practice of listening, learning, and leaning into who we truly are. And loving who that is!
Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean you can’t strive for more in every area of your life, you are made for wild and wondrous things. It’s just important that what you are working so hard for is coming from the right place - love not lack.
Sophia Bush says this so beautifully - “You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously”.
How to Begin Your Year of Becoming
· Be brave: Reflect on what you’ve wanted to do for the longest time, but have been too afraid to start. Identify the reasons that have been holding you back, particularly any self-limiting beliefs. Write them down - then scribble them out. Replace them with the reasons why this is going to be the year you take that first step and simply begin. Carry the mantra “Be brave” with you, everywhere you go. And when you achieve your first heart-led goal, change it to “Be braver”.
· Stop fighting against your body: Start fighting for your body! YOU are the only one you will ever wake up with and fall asleep with, every single day of your life. Learn how to become friends with yourself, and with your body, and devour endless adventures together along the way. Fighting for your body can look like: Movement, stillness, dancing, trusting, laughter, prioritising peace. You deserve to live a joyous life in a body that you love.
· Set a goal for gratitude: If you set just one big goal for yourself this year, let it be a goal for gratitude. Instead of naming all the parts of you that you wish to change, celebrate out loud the parts you love and why. You could start with your arms that have embraced your most delicious, love filled hugs, your smile that has shared great joy and laughter with you and your favourites, or your legs that have quite literally carried you through your hardest moments. Keep adding to your list in a way that has the most meaning to you. Practice getting grateful for it all.
· Move to feel good and not because you “should”. You don’t have to start this year throwing yourself into movement as a form of punishment because you’ve had a joyous holiday with a few more treats than usual. It matters what we do most of the time, not some of the time, and holidays are supposed to be glorious. Choose ways to move your body that make you smile. Experiment and play until you find the kind of movement that does just that.
· Watch your words: The words you speak to yourself? They matter. Every single cell in your body is listening, and responding. Practice makes this easier. Letting go of your inner critic makes you lighter. Start by observing your thoughts and self-talk. Then be gentle, be kind and wrap your words twice with love.
· Prioritise your peace: Step away from your phone, the brain bombardment of external pressures and expectations and get comfortable with being still. Learn how to meditate or walk quietly in nature as a gift to your brain. Book a yoga class or a retreat as a gift to your soul. Or simply close down your eyes, take a deep breath and just be still for a moment. Notice what changes.
· Get really clear on what you want: Clarity is power. You can’t get what you want unless you know what you want. If you’re feeling stuck, start with: How do I want to feel? What do I want for my health? What do I want for my life?
2025 is for you. Cultivate your courage and take the first small step towards becoming you.
Are you ready? Let’s begin.
Love you, Love Niki xo
